so this morning i was laying in bed and my head just started to fizzle. i have heard recently from so many of my friends that they are 'not happy'. they sit and review their life and they realize that so-in-so is in a better place than they are and that makes them sad, depressed, complacent, etc.
why do each of us, not matter how wonderful we have it, have to think that we have failed, that we arent good enough etc. it is because most of us were taught the old saying of ' the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence'. we continue to look at what other people have and say 'i want'. instead of taking two second to realize or think that the people that are looking at our grass thinking its greener too.
why are we all so unhappy. fashion magazines makes perfectly beautiful women think that they are fat, unstylish and therefore unattractive. sports magazines sit there and tell me the same things in other ways - ie your muscles are too small therefore you are imperfect too. it is all improper bloody poppycock.
take stock of your own stock. recognize and confront your own goals. are you were you want to be? are you in a place that you need a little more a little less of whatever you may have, need or want.
what all of us need to realize is that each of us are responsible for our own destiny. those of you with spouses, children, etc. may have it a little harder to bring all of these thoughts together, but truly you will be the one in charge of you.
i had some hard decisions to make at the end of last year. i will give you each a little tidbit into my world. as i felt at the time that it had all come crashing down. the person that i loved was distant, my job was removed from under my ass, i was in a new place with no real friends and was at the lowest i have been ever. and for those that have known me since my teens, it was lower then the incident when i was 19, much much lower. i was at a point where i didn't think my stock was worth more than about a penny and that may have been pushing it.
well it took some really good friends to pull me out of my funk and turn my head from a clouded sobbing mess to a bright and cheery spirit again. take stock, give it a little while. buy a journal, sit with your family and discuss how they see your life.
everyone goes through depression, we all have our ups and downs. if you think about it, people have moods like the economy. when we are up, our stock is high, we are happy and easy going and loving life. even when something bad happens it isnt like water on a ducks back, shimmering and sliding down the feathers and back into the lake where it belongs. when we are down, we could have the best things that life can offer, but still there is the weight of our world on our shoulders and dark rain clouds getting our legs all wet with raindrops or worse creating puddles to deep to wade through.
take stock people. look at your own life. know that there is someone looking at your grass and being just as jealous of your fence, house and trees as you are of theirs. everything is relative. everyone is relative and this too shall pass.
i have a friend, we will call him d. the man just finished a divorce and closed a chapter on his life. his past love of more than a third of his life is over. yes it is a sad process to remove someone of that long from your life, but i look at his grass with jealous eyes of envy. he is employed, he has two beautiful children and he is healthy. d has himself in the way of his happiness as we all do. my friend j is much the same, she thinks her kids are the worst but when i look at hers they are more under control, happy and self-satisfied than a lot of other children that i know. i too take a look at her yard and am very envious, beautiful children, career, husband, home.
each of us must take stock of our own wants and dreams. do we have a plan for our life, are we following it, does it seem down to earth enough to make a reality... sometimes taking a moment away will help us all. take a picnic, buy a journal, take up a new hobby. what do you want to do? what will make you happy? believe me, there is so much to be praising for in your life. there is so much time to move forward and change. there is so much that we all need to take a break, remove our shoes, feel the grass under our feet and the sunshine on our faces. whether you are at the beach or in your own yard.... i dare you.
i dare you to take a few seconds and realize that what you have is not all that bad and if you heard enough from other people, you would realize that others are proud of you, what you have accomplished and where you are in your life. i dare you all to take stock, remove the negativeness from your thought and realize that life has not given baskets full of lemons, but beautifully planted tress that are full of blooms. and just because the buds may be small during certain times in your life does not remove them from the trees, just from your line of sight.
blessings to all, you have more than you realize, take time to take stock. you will be surprised what you truly are blessed with.....
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